Before things became busy with WildHeart Vision, I was editor-in-chief of an e-zine called Inlightenment: Nourishing the Sacred Within. In every issue, we explored what it means to be spiritual in today’s world, and shared simple and practical tips for how anyone can lead a more soulful life. Along the way, we introduced the people, places, and things that nourish the mind, body, and spirit, and provided a platform for readers the world over to share their inspiring stories.
Though Inlightenment currently exists only as a Facebook community, the wisdom imparted by our contributors lives on. From time to time, I’ll share my favorite articles with you here.
The following conversation comes from a regular column called Ask and Receive, where previously unacquainted readers shared a heartfelt dialogue. Here, poet Lisa Vihos, 50, of Sheboygan, Wisconsin, USA, asked life coach Helena Anne Jevons 35, of Chelmsford, UK, what trust means to her.
What is the difference between trusting and risking?
Great question, soul sister! And my answer begins with a question back: what is, truly, ever at risk? Once we are secure in ourselves and trust the divinity within ourselves in every moment, with no attachment to outcome, then the very concept of risk becomes obsolete. We choose to create risk when we close our hearts, come off our centers, and don’t follow (or can’t access) our inner knowing. And we’ll continue to create that risk so we continue to learn that lesson of trust in ourselves until we can be truly in that space in every moment. Risks exists to “teach” us to follow our inner k nowing –either because of something that happened when we were a child, or something, perhaps (and for those who believe it), that was imprinted through pain or suffering in us in another life, dimension, etc. When we trust and honor ourselves, there is nothing anyone else can take from us!
Why do some of us have trouble trusting the voice inside us?
Most of us are, quite simply, http://www.confused.com! So, as you say, why? Two reasons: firstly, us white Western folks are brought up in educational establishments designed to train and reward our rational brains to “solve” things! Thus from an early age, we learn that “getting the mental answers right” is what brings us rewards and keeps us safe (via love, exam results, career success, blah blah). I have a secret theory that the more “edu-ma-cated” we are, the more problem we have trusting our the inner voice of our hearts (says a girl with a Cambridge MA). Like mice learning the route through a maze to find their cheese, we learn what brings us ‘rewards’–emotional, spiritual, physical, etc., and hardwire these patterns into our brains. Secondly, many of us have role models given to us by parents (who went through a similar education system) that it’s not ok to express who we really are. Our energy fields are still cluttered by all their beliefs. We need to defrag, disc clean, and virus scan our hard drives. We have viruses and out of date software files! Then the lovely cleaned-up you can emerge and be bigger and brighter and surer of yourself in the world.
How can we learn to be better at honoring this inner channel?
Over the past year, my long-suffering partner’s favorite “mock” was “Aaah..are you TRYING to let go again?” Our problem is we try to “figure out'” how to ‘”fix'” this problem. Here’s the thing–it’s never going to work! Figuring it out is a yang—active, rational. Accessing our inner self is ultimately a yin, intuitive processes of allowing that still, quiet voice of the heart to be heard more and more clearly, giving it space to blossom, to whisper gently, then using our active self to hold the action or position associated with that whisper in our interactions with the world. So my best advice would be to prioritize making time to start finding the ways that will allow access to that intuitive flow. Here are some ideas:
- Spend serious time with people who help you keep your heart open. This may not even be people. It may be your dog or cat, or an activity–your gardening or your pottery. Notice how easy it is to access your inner voice when you’re in this relaxed brainwave state.
- Try automatic writing: write questions and allow the answers to come through in response…you’ll be surprised.
- Learn to dowse, using a crystal or metal pendulum, and use it to check your intuitive feelings on who in your life, or what activities, are really supporting your highest path and the True You!
- Get a spiritual mentor, or someone who IS good at following this/her own in(ner) tuition! Or buddy up with someone who also wants to “tune in more to this channel.” Like with anything else, it’s good to have the support of professionals and peers.
- Sound therapy is fabulous at resetting your vibration at a higher level, as are other alternative energy therapies such as Reiki, Magnified Healing, and Metatronic Healing.
- Remember: energy follows intention. So the more you intend, in a heartfelt way, to hear that quiet whisper of your heart, and to act on it, the more that guidance will come–if you are ready to listen. However, be aware that neuroscientists have shown that it takes approximately 21 days for your brain pathways to re-pattern. So you will have to consciously work with making new choices, guided by your heart, as that happens.
- Practice a heart-opening meditation daily so that you learn what it feels like to be coming from your heart center and not your mind. Something to remember: coming from your heart doesn’t mean floating around in tie-die, playing tambourines, and signing your emails “love and light.” It means living your life from a strong place of inner knowing and compassion—for yourself and others.
Really though, you’ll have to find what the right way is for you. I get sudden creative, intuitive, heartfelt insights when I’m driving, and when I’m in the bath! I guess these activities are what relax my brainwave state, and allow my heart and intuition to shine through!